Parents of NRIs in India

It is very hard being a parent of a NRI in India. U bring up a child with expectations of a good job, good income but when he starts out to study, parent finds that he has to study somewhere far. After college,he then goes to a job. As long as he is India,parent can expect to see the child twice a year atleast. When he goes abroad,parent has to see the child once in two years and that too for just 1 month.

When a NRI child comes to India,2 days go into visiting Tirupati or some spiritual place. Having to spend time in both in-law's houses,parents get only 15 days at the maximum with their children and their grandchildren. Shopping takes away couple of days. Celebrations take up few days and again the parents find themselves lonely. NRI flies back to foreign country and in the middle of his work sometimes remembers his parents. He feels frustrated that he cannot be with his parents. 

NRI builds a large palatial house, but he cannot bring his parents to stay there since the older generation finds it hard to gel in USA.Children ask them to spend time with their grandchildren but American grandchildren grow up independently and blend in more with their friends than relatives. Many NRIs who want to come back to their parents find living in their hometowns if they are not in metros for society has different expectations of them. In India, Success has several milestones. Comparisons are too high and NRIs soon find out that they constantly keep getting measured with someone by their relatives and they are forced to act on their expectations rather than their own. Even if one wants to live by his own rules, he finds that society peeps into one's personal life and feels jealous and envious about one's success more so in tier-2 trading towns. Cosmopolitan/Industrial cities do not carry that culture. 

Lack of dignity of labor also harms the distinction between personal and professional life which is clearly demarcated in foreign shores. Noone pays for overtime work and one is expected to work on holidays and weekends. 

Working in Indian corporate world is not easy. There is huge mediocrity layer who survives forever in the middle bootlicking and displaying loyalty. They are preferred by the bosses since they harbor no ambitions towards their position and always are loyal. For the innovative NRI, working with such people who never would recognize their talent& instead choose to feed on them like parasites without ever encouraging. Multinational companies are bereft of such low practices but they are prevalent in most family ruled companies.Also, unlike American culture where dignity of labor is respected, hierarchy is enforced to the extent of demotivating team members. 2 in 5 team members suffer from lack of interest in their jobs due to their bosses. 

Also,in India, education still is rote learning and based on british military system not allowing the child to learn beyond the given syllabus. Years pass by yet the child does not learn of his own environment through school life. Education in foreign shores has huge impetus for the child for it is not rote learning and child also gets to focus on the courses he wants unlike Indian Society which puts huge emphasis on engineering. Another thing highly impeding for people in India is hugeh casteism in the hinterland. 

NRIs bringing up children in foreign shores lament that their children do not grow with their grandparents and not learn the value of relationships. When parents do not show their love for their old parents, the children grow with the same kind of indifference. This gives them individuality but at what cost. NRIs gloat they have kept their parents in old age homes or have hired personnel to take care of their parents but will those personnel ever replace own children. 

In Foreign shores,there are no layers and communication flows freely. This leads to innovation and thus makes NRIs love Foreign shores. Hence NRIs find it always a dilemma on how to be good sons to their parents yet find justice in their careers.In the Metros and MNCs, they are finding a blend of their foreign lifestyle and hence many are returning to metros and very few to their own hometowns. For a doctor, it is very easy for he can be successful in a metro or in his own hometown but children might not get the quality of education that one gets in metros. Hence despite having many properties of their own in India, NRIs prefer to stay abroad.